Walk with dad

I was meant to meet a friend today from my baby group but because i wasn't sure how Kanye was going to be i postponed. Kanye isn't himself still, no tonic clonics but a lot of absence/small myoclonic seizures, he's really tired and was a bit pale today, i really thought hard about whether i should send him.

I sent him to school anyway warning his teachers on how he was, they texted me mid morning to say actually he has been lying down most of the morning and was pretty tired. I said if he was still like that at lunch i would get him but he picked up a bit not long after.

I took a walk about 11ish to the library to get books for Marley knowing it was Harpers nap time. I was able to get what i needed and continue walking to my mother in laws work at ballantynes when he woke up. Just in time. i let him walk in holding my hand, she hadn't seen it yet and how confident he is. He then decided that grandma needed to walk him around, he was absolutely taken with the Chanel counter, i'm just glad i didn't take him down the other end to fragrance! He would have pulled everything off the shelves.

We continued on as it was nearly Andres lunchtime so we went to vics cafe and had some lunch and coffee. I miss having time with my husband. We seem to just work until the kids go to bed and then we are so tired we watch stuff on tv not really paying attention to it and fall asleep.
A little down from vics cafe- across the road from where Andre is working is this little grassy patch with benches to sit, of course Harper had to walk around with Andre until it was time for Andre to go back to work.

We went home and finished the housework before going to get Marley.

I managed to catch Marleys teacher who said he was fine today and that they seem to think that whether something happened or not its Marleys own fear of the wee boy. She said if he continues to be afraid of him they're going to increase interaction with support of course; for Marley to see he doesn't need to be afraid off him and to understand him a little bit better. I wholeheartedly supported her idea, we were both in agreement.

He mentioned the boy twice on the way home so i told him that if he was worried about the boy at lunch to tell him to stop and go get a duty teacher to help him. Which he did yesterday anyways.

Marley got the attitude plate tonight for doing the right thing, we want to emphasize to him that asking for help is good and that hitting/lashing out is not the way to go , we praised him for talking to us about a problem and for being brave and going to school even though he was scared.

These are huge things we want Marley to carry with him for as long as possible so that in teenage years when therapists have told me that his anxiety issues may raise their ugly head alongside the possibility of him being bullied-we want him to be able to come to us and know we're here, we'll always do our best to help him.

We need to arm him with the tools to deal with things like a child upsetting him now so hes confident later on in case he ever does get bullied, this includes telling him/ showing him now how not to be a bully too.

I made fruit kebabs for dessert tonight with added marshmallows, delicious. Followed by an evening of catching up with the commonwealth games.