Penguins and Butterflies.

Today was Neil and Lorna's Wedding :)

It was a really beautiful day. It all took place at The Hub at the top of the Mile which is a gorgeous venue. The ceremony was lovely and I have to admit I was really wishing I'd remembered my hankies! Especially during the reading - "Date A Girl Who Reads"* - which I love and couldn't have been more perfect for them. It was also hard to hold back the tears when This is the first day of my life (Bright Eyes) played as they signed the register. After the ceremony sparkly was served in the room next door and there was a collective gasp from me and Maggie and my Book Group buddies when we saw the tables - they were laid out with old editions of penguin books circled around massive paper flower arrangements (all the flowers were paper because Neil is so allergic but they were absolutely stunning!) for you to browse through and take away as favours! Amazing.
The dinner was great and we were all together at our own Book Group table which was fab, lots of laughs and thoroughly enjoyable. After all the speeches we even had a proper Book Group photo! Not everyone had managed to be at the wedding but there was Neil and Lorna (obviously), MsInk and Cinn, Me, Smu, Ser and Cat. We all held our booky favours and tried to look studious and as if we were reading - well until I heard Maggie laugh in the background and looked daggers at her....hopefully they wont use that one!
The first dance and the father and bride dance were really touching and funny and the band came on and did some ceilidh numbers (Mags got stuck in!). I was totally shattered by this point though so Maggie and I made an elegant departure while we still could. I missed tasting this amazing cake (Lorna loves butterflies, Neil is half-penguin) but I'd had such a fabulous day so I didn't mind leaving a bit early :)

Oh and I almost forgot to mention - I found out tonight that more freinds are getting married soon! SO exciting! I'm pleased as punch for them :)


*DATE A GIRL WHO READS by Rosemarie Urquico

(In Response to Charles Warnke's 'You Should Date An Illiterate Girl'.)

Date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books.
Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads.
You'll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.
She's the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants.
You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That's the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.

She's the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she's kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author's making.
Sit down.
She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce's Ulysses she's just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It's easy to date a girl who reads.
Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries.
Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings.
Let her know that you understand that words are love.
Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she's going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book.
It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop.
Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close.
When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She'll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon.
Or during a rock concert.
Or very casually next time she's sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn't burst and bled out all over your chest yet.
You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes.
She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day.
You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it.
You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable.
If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you're better off alone.
If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.