What is This?

I wonder if anyone can identify this. 
I thought at first it was a bee, not like any I've seen before. It was hovering and carrying on in the wisteria like one. But the colours look more like a fly. It has a really flat face.
The first extra shows the whole thing. 
In the second he actually put up a "hand" and rubbed his eye.

Today is our 40th wedding anniversary so we are now going out for dinner :-)