Tangled thoughts

Some random thoughts were going through my head as I was walking around the harbour today. I have read a lot about grief and how our mind works after someone dies as it helps me to understand. When I saw these ropes today, some of the thoughts were coming back as they reminded me of our central nervous system.

After a major loss, our brain has to rewire itself to deal with the new reality it finds itself in. The connections with the person who died are literally cut, but it takes time for the brain to understand this. The brain needs to find a new pathway and has to define a new relationship with the person who died. I don't think our loved ones should be forgotten or one "needs to move on". He/ she will live forever in our hearts.

Of the little time I have spent on this journey nobody wants to find him/herself in, I have learned the following (and I will try to live my life accordingly): Be patient and kind to yourself, listen to your heart, do the things you love, avoid the ones (as much as you can) that are difficult and energy-draining and surround yourself with people that do you good. And most important of all, live in the moment and enjoy the little things in life. I know, it sounds like a cliché, but it is so true. Because life can be over in a second (and no...unfortunately , it does not only happen to other people...) and all you have left are your memories - and you will remember (and hang onto) these little precious moments in the past.

So, a wee step forward each day (accepting that sometimes it is only one step forward and five steps back), but hopefully the little special moments occur more often. This is what I hope that one day I can say it is OK and I feel (sort of) grounded in my new life again.

I wish you all a lovely weekend! xx

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